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Tuesday, June 16, 2009

Adjusting Hubby's Antenna

So I'm, ArchAngel's Wife, sitting here enjoying a nice cup of hot coffee... watching the sun come up over the ridge of Pinnacle Mountain, the hay swaying in the fields out front, the smells of fresh cut grass mixed with glorious dew, the sounds of children snoozing in their beds enjoying the calm of summer, the roosters crowing out back, pondering on starting another painting.... pondering adjusting my hubby's antenna!.........ahhh morning. It is a nice time, a quiet time, a time to get up and read my Bible, have some time with the Lord, to myself, to reflect and think. We mothers rarely get time to just sit and think but oh do I treasure it! And, I especially treasure my time with the Lord... I just couldn't make it without Him.

Here lately, I've been tested quite a bit... in more ways than one. I have been learning what it is to have true faith-

for my hubby, Joe, has up and decided to quit his job, his for sure job making very good money and start his own business.....in this economy of all things.... when my mind as a woman is to stay stable and not launch new things....and so I started to think.....do you ever just wanna reach up and adjust Your hubby's antenna? I mean, what is going on in their heads?

Now as a woman I was raised you back your man up no matter what. That's all good and fine, that's easy to do, right? We women nowadays in the years of 2000 are raised yes to be liberal and strong, take care of ourselves, to be aggressive, sharp, work hard both in and out of the home....... but as a Christian woman, I am to support my husband in all he does as well. Just how does one go about doing that? Truly doing that? Do we put our 'two cents' worth in where needed? Do we offer advice? We all know men SO love that! ....... I've learned in church over the years these things.... to follow my husband, to care for him, to cook and clean, to believe in him, to love and respect him, and yes to blend that with being a "liberated" woman.

But, noone ever truly tells you just how to go about doing that. I mean really, is there some book or template that we women are to look to? I personally love all those self help books! hehe I could read a hundred. And, I just love telling hubby allllll about what I learn in them, you know? You say: not a good idea!!! I know.... you say, look in the Bible.... Right!!! You are right............ see now, I said I am being tried here lately and learning......... yes, the answers are there, but the practice, now the practice is up to me...

But for now, I'm having a crash course in this stuff! For starters, my hubby is in the midst of a learning process too! He has decided to start a business in the midst of his turning to Christ and changing his life. It is odd... and I'm sure many have gone before and done things this way... I'm sure there are other women out there who could give me advice, or mentoring or something.... who have watched their darlings change overnight....launching into a whole new world and having you and the children hold onto their shirtstrings in the midst of it all....... If you are out there, please contact me!

In starting a new business I can help him to market, take care of paperwork, to plan, to tell others about his desires and goals.... but insomuch as that, that's where my help with the business stops, right? --No, I can pray and talk with the Lord, ask Him to give my husband direction, guidance, determination, skill, trust, faith, energy, honesty, and so much more.... yes, that is one way to support him, on my knees. I can gently offer advice where needed... I can make sure our home is prepared, meals and such, so that when he comes home from the world he has a safe haven to rest...... I can work on myself, be presentable for him, and strong so that when he is tired, I am here.... peaceful and waiting..... The past few days have been trying... well, quite honestly I've put so much emphasis on the biz that lately I've done none of that stuff I just wrote about that I know I'm Supposed to be doing...... I think we women love to take hold to take control and I've been doing that. Working on the biz and letting the rest go to the wayside...... I suppose it is something to do with balance? Perhaps....

No calls in three days.... I know, my focus again, right. But, What does the Lord mean by letting us have no calls in three days? I don't know. I tend to be a go getter and can't stand just sitting around and waiting... ahhhh..... Perhaps the Lord wants me to focus more on Him? instead of the going ons and whatnots of the Here and Now.... I'm not sure. I know I'm proud of my husband for standing for what he believes in the workplace. I'm proud of him for wanting to start his own business so he may have more time to venture out and do church/volunteer work..... but I have to be honest with God and myself that I'm scared. It is scary to just launch out in faith. We women love stability, love it. My husband keeps telling me it is like when Jesus asked Peter to jump out of the boat and walk towards Him.... we are walking on water now. Ain't that the truth! Seven children between the two of us.... oh my little babies. I know God will take care of us, He has shown me that time and again.....

He brings to mind an example: Like the time I was single, in between marriages... and living on a mere $7.50 an hour.... I didn't have school supply money for the kids and was going to give my tithe for the two weeks, $30. I said, Lord If I give you my tithe that is money I could use to buy the children supplies.... and He said, Trust Me. and So I did.... and the most wonderful thing happened! I went to Sunday School and a friend, more of an acquaintance was there.... she came up to me and told me she had decided to stay home with her new baby and not teach school and with that turned around producing to bags of school supplies! She then told me that she didn't want to hurt my feelings but that she felt God wanted me to have these.... WOW I said yes, oh yes, I had prayed for them and told her how the Lord had told me to trust Him for the supplies.... and she smiled and said not to forget the card in the bottom of the bag. Upon going home and going through the supplies, what would I find in that card? $30!!! Not only did He give me the supplies my children needed, but He gave me the money back as well! Isn't God good??? .... but we so easily forget. No wonder God had to keep reminding them in the Old Testament.... I know I do and have especially here lately need some reminding.

He has showed me time and again. I could tell you story after story but here I am now.... walking in faith.... trying to learn what it is to truly be a Godly woman and trust my husband to be listening correctly to the Lord.... don't we always want to take the wheel? I mean, if I were in control, the one starting a business, wouldn't it be easier? But, to trust not just the Lord in this, but my husband too? Does he have his antenna on straight? Do I need to tweak it for him? Does he have his Rosetta Stone in his mind, all the words figured out? Is he listening to God correctly and Truly Hearing Him? I don't know.... During the times the Lord and I were alone, before I got married, it was so easy........ it was just God and me. Just us two.... but now, I'm just a wife. Right? Just a wife.... along for the ride............a wife learning how to be a wife, to a Godly man, not just a man, but one listening to the Lord for real....... But when I look upon things with my own eyes, I just don't see it adding up. Enjoying my coffeee talking with the Lord.... and viewing how things are panning out.... as a Christian woman, I suppose I need to just close my eyes....pray.... and enjoy letting God take control. The funny thing is that in the midst of me learning these things, as a sort of newly married couple, three years.... is that I'm watching my hubby grow in the Lord at the same time. These are exciting times!!! Scary but exciting! Not just in our lives, but the worlds' as well. So many changes are happening....

I pray we all stop, drink some coffee and talk with the Lord about the changes we see happening out there.... not just in here, but out there.......I'm learning -For now, I am just pondering and would love to talk with other women about how we can support our husbands;

Through thick and thin and especially when sometimes we think they've lost their bonkers!!! Because, I think that in the coming years, we are gonna need to know how to do this very well. We don't have to adjust their atennas...... just pray for them.

And, after all that, and some quiet time with God, I think I've answered my own question....

It's MY antenna that needs adjusting!!!

I'll just give it all to Him. There. Done.

- And now, I will go clean house.

Blessings one and all,

Maw Kimberly Webber Young-ster in Faith

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